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Role Reversal: Taking Care of the Elderly

Joette Calabrese, HMC, CCH, RSHom(Na)

November 8th, 2020  |  10 Comments

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Joette Calabrese

 

They fed us; they bathed us; they diapered us; they strolled us around in the fresh air.

Now they need us to do the same for them.

It’s a simple matter of role reversal as each generation takes care of their elderly parents.

While it is a beautiful and rewarding thing to do, caring for the elderly is not without unusual predicaments and inevitable frustrations. I did a podcast on this topic: Podcast 51 — Aging: Our Grandparents, Our Parents and Us.

My mother lived with us for about a year before she passed away in late 2019. While each situation is different, many issues are quite common in eldercare. For instance, when my mother initially became my charge, her emotions were big. She cried and, not unlike many in her situation, she was sometimes angry.

Although my mother’s dementia had taken over to the point that she didn’t fully comprehend her situation, who wouldn’t cry and be angry over such a drastic change in ability? It’s quite common for our elders to have over-the-top emotions.

So, first and foremost, I worked with her homeopathically to even her temperament and bring her back to her old sweet self. 

For crying and insomnia, I gave her Ignatia 200, twice a day, until these conditions abated. By then it was easy to forget the medicine since the condition didn’t arise again until I inadvertently stopped giving it to her.

One persistent issue was urinary tract infections. UTIs are a leading cause of death in our elderly population. However, homeopathy offers an exceptional medicine for UTIs — Cantharis 30, generally used every few hours depending on severity. I noticed that when she was particularly restless, it wasn’t long after that a UTI presented. My mother had her unique little way of showing me and through observation, I was able to recognize it.

Not only does it work effectively, but the use of homeopathy allows the avoidance of the classic complications of yeast infections, constipation, food intolerances and gut issues that antibiotics most assuredly usher in. (We’ve discussed Cantharis previously in Podcast 81 — Ladies Only and in Recurring UTIs and Antibiotics: Stop the Cycle.)

If your elderly charge is unable to communicate their urinary discomfort, fear not. A UTI diagnosis is often an easy — and logical — deduction made by your awareness of an odd urine odor. 

Another cause of mortality among seniors is pneumonia. If caught early on, Aconitum napellus 200 mixed together in the mouth with Bryonia 30  (Banerji Protocol) can nip it in the bud! I would give it to my mother every 15 minutes or so for the first 3-4 doses and then back off to every 3-4 hours. As she began feeling better, the frequency slowed to every 5-6 hours (and so on). (I recently discussed the use of this remedy in my blog post, “We Can Do This … Mother-to-Mother, Family-to-Family.)

Constipation is another chronic issue with our older generation. Think about it: they’re sitting all day. Their lack of movement results in, well, a lack of “movements.” Couple immobility with the side effects from the drugs they might be on, and you have a recipe for discomfort.

As discussed in the same blog post above, Nux vomica 200 or 30, twice daily when needed, combats constipation — politely, rather than aggressively with explosive laxatives. (You can also read about the same use of Nux vomica in Medication Causing Constipation in Children.)

Now, I have no doubt you might wonder, “How on earth do I get homeopathic remedies into my aging parent — especially when I have several conditions to address?”

Well, when a parent is unusually obstinate, some tomfoolery might be in order. You’ve no doubt heard the story of my father. Before he became a believer in homeopathy, my mother and I resorted to putting his remedy in his soup!

But that method is certainly not optimal. If you absolutely have no choice, it is a compromise.

If you aren’t at home all day and cannot closely attend your parent, I understand you may have to make concessions. To keep remedies down to a minimum, you would first address what you’ve determined to be the weightiest issue. That remedy should most definitely be separated from the others.

If secondary conditions are less life-threatening — say, just a wart and toenail fungus and gas when they eat wheat — you may be forced to give those secondary remedies together. I have not done it myself, but I have heard from my students and clients over the decades that it works. But again, it is not optimal.

However, I don’t believe it’s all that difficult to present the medications properly. It’s all about case management.

Here was my process (which worked quite nicely, I might add): I separated each remedy or protocol by only a matter of minutes as I dressed and got my mother up and ready for the day and going to bed at night.

For instance, in the morning, I would pop a homeopathic medicine in her mouth when she awoke. As I walked her into the bathroom, I would pop another remedy in her mouth. Washing her up? Another remedy. Setting her back in her wheelchair? Another remedy. Bringing her into the kitchen as I prepared breakfast? Yet another.

All of these medicines were separated by only a matter of minutes. But I gave each one its own little space to act.

And act they did!

In the end, it boils down to this: we can’t depend on others — it’s up to us! We have to take health matters into our own hands. Can you imagine all the drugs my little mother at the end of her life would have been subjected to had my brother, husband and I not committed ourselves to protect her from such?

In some ways, our society has developed a “learned helplessness.” To paraphrase famed business strategist Dan Kennedy, we are holding onto an umbilical cord looking for someone else to plug it into!

It’s as though we have been conditioned to say, “Someone else must have the answer — it can’t possibly be me!”

But we who count on homeopathy know that it CAN be each of us who holds the answer — and, most often, it IS! Especially when it comes to the care of our precious elderly family members.

Now, that doesn’t mean someone else can’t contribute to our solutions. But it does mean we can’t rely on others. As I’ve said before, “GLEAN, don’t LEAN!”

So, friends, you be the hero and I’ll be your guide.

And, of course, pass on the good news of homeopathy.

Warmly,

Joette Calabrese

P.S. Obviously, another condition my mother and many seniors deal with is dementia. It’s too complex to get into it here in a blog. However, I did address it in a Facebook Live that you may be interested in: When Mental Confusion Becomes Hellish (from 7/6/20).

All of these conditions are covered in my Survivalist Guide to HomeopathyThis guide will be your anxiety reliever; providing a plan of action with time-proven and clinically tested homeopathic protocols — whether you have to run from your home or, as in my case, take over the care of your elderly parents. (Click on this link and download my infographic containing 23 emergency homeopathic remedies)

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I am a homeopath with a worldwide practice working with families and individuals via Zoom. I'm also a teacher and most importantly, a mom who raised my now-adult children depending on homeopathy over the last 31 years. I lived decades of my life with food intolerances, allergies, and chemical sensitivities until I was cured with homeopathy, so I understand pain, anxiety, and suffering. You may feel that your issues are more severe or different than anyone else’s, but I have seen it all in my practice and in my work in India. My opinion is that nothing has come close to the reproducible, safe and effective results that my clients, students and I have achieved with homeopathy.

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Joette is not a physician and the relationship between Joette and her clients is not of prescriber and patient, but as educator and client. It is fully the client's choice whether or not to take advantage of the information Joette presents. Homeopathy doesn't “treat” an illness; it addresses the entire person as a matter of wholeness that is an educational process, not a medical one. Joette believes that the advice and diagnosis of a physician is often in order.


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10 thoughts on “Role Reversal: Taking Care of the Elderly”

  1. Rachel says:

    Mrs. Calabrese,

    Thank you for letting us see that personal and touching photo of you and your mother. It says so much and is really very beautiful.

    This was an extremely helpful post and I am grateful for the information. May I ask, do you find that Cantharis is particularly good for UTI’s in the elderly? Do you prefer it over the Banerji Protocol of Medorrhinum for seniors?

    Thank you & blessings

    1. Joette Calabrese, HMC, CCH, RSHom(Na) says:

      Thank you.
      None are specific for the elderly and both Cantharis and Medorrhinum are excellent for UTI’s. I more often open a UTI case with Cantharis.

  2. Philippa says:

    Love these practical tips, thank you!

  3. Jan Burlet says:

    Thank you for your love and caring. God blesses you well!

  4. Salome Nousis says:

    Thank you so much, Joette, for the very sensitive and practical information. How does one navigate between Nux Vomica and Ignatia, when both are needed at the same time: I understand they both contain the same substance and they’re inimical?

    1. Joette Calabrese, HMC, CCH, RSHom(Na) says:

      I don’t usually have a concern about “inimicals”. I use what is needed and have seen good results even when used in the same schedule.

      1. Salome says:

        Thanks, Joette! It’s a relief to know that .

  5. Amy B says:

    Please advise on the form of Bryonia 30 I should get from Helios (oral liquid 23% alc., medicating potency, oral liquid 10% alc., LM liquid 10% alc, etc)

  6. Rachel says:

    Mrs. Calabrese,

    Is Nux generally indicated for the elderly over the Banerji Protocol or was this chosen over LycoPlum because drug side effects may be involved?

    Thank you & many blessings

    1. Joette Calabrese, HMC, CCH, RSHom(Na) says:

      Yes, NV is pretty specific for post drug settings.

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