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Just Married. Just Anxious!

Joette Calabrese, HMC, PHom M

January 12th, 2020  |  20 Comments

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Joette Calabrese


You’ve won the man of your dreams. Now you want to win over his family!

“Will I make the grade with my husband’s parents?

Is my house in perfect order?

Can I make the perfect meal?

Can I keep the kids well behaved, so his parents respect my mothering skills?”

Trust me, wives through the ages have experienced anxiety when faced with entertaining their in-laws. I certainly have.

But there’s no need to worry yourself sick.

First of all, you’re reading this blog!

That, in itself, shows that you’re a conscientious, caring wife and mother — a woman any mother-in-law should be proud of.

Secondly, (and most importantly), when apprehension, fear and anxiety creep in, you have homeopathy. Passiflora incarnata, to be exact.

Perhaps you heard me speak in a recent Anxiety Summit as I mentioned my high regard for this medicine.

Unfortunately, time and format did not permit me to teach potency or frequency, so I wanted to continue the discussion here.

Generally, Passiflora is used in mother tincture form — five drops directly in the mouth just before dinner time (say, around 5 p.m.) and then again before bedtime (roughly 11 p.m.).

In homeopathic form, Passiflora 6C would be the preferred choice, also employed in the same manner.

Discontinue the medicine when anxiety dissipates.

As I teach in my materia medica, “The Passiflora personality tends to worry all the time and work too much.” 

I’m willing to bet many of you young women (and older ones as well) experienced this feeling over the recent holidays. All kinds of things can go wrong, causing us to doubt ourselves.

I recall one young woman who traveled to her husband’s parents’ home for Christmas.

They were newly married, and she was — as most of us would be — a little on edge about making a good impression.

While there, the family cat went missing. Of course, she joined the family as they searched for the beloved pet for hours — to no avail. 

Later that evening, with the entire family still under a cloud of concern, she began to prepare their sofa bed for sleep.

As she opened the sofa bed, guess who popped out — unharmed, but snarling and hissing with his fur all matted in the wrong direction? 

You got it!

She’d “found” the missing family cat. She’d accidentally made him up in the sofa bed that morning. 

So much for making a good impression on the in-laws.

Things happen.

They happen to all of us. (Well, maybe not trapping a cat in a sofa bed, but you know what I mean.)

While causing anxiety at the time, these are the kind of instances that become hysterically funny holiday stories years later. (Years.)

But it’s January now. Relax. Take a deep breath. The onslaught is over … 

For now. 

The next time you have to be with his family (or your family or even a group of persnickety friends), don’t let anxiety get the better of you.

No hysteria.

No panic. Have Passiflora on hand and keep calm.

And double-check the sofa bed.

Pass on the good news of homeopathy!


Joette Calabrese


P.S. I’ve written other blogs about anxiety in different situations. Perhaps those will interest you as well. Check out: Anxiety: When the Elevator Flies to the Top and You Mean Summer is OVER? When Back to School Results in Anxiety and Panic Attacks, Homeopathy Saves the Day

However, if anxiety is a chronic condition requiring more thorough education to determine the correct remedy, I encourage you to consider taking my in-depth course, Mindful Homeopathy: Practical Protocols for Mental and Emotional Conditions.

P.P.S. Earlier, I quoted a line from the section on this particular remedy contained in my materia medica. Passiflora is just one of the over 150 homeopathic medicines that I discuss in A Materia Medica: Practical Homeopathy® for Busy Families.

Even if you own other materia medicas (which I hope you do), I’m confident you’ll find this book is an invaluable addition to your homeopathy library.

This unique reference provides my take on these medicines — Practical Homeopathy®. 

Now is the perfect time to learn more about the homeopathic remedies that can liberate your family.

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Joette laughingI am a homeopath with a worldwide practice working with families and individuals via Zoom. I'm also a teacher and most importantly, a mom who raised my now-adult children depending on homeopathy over the last 31 years. I lived decades of my life with food intolerances, allergies, and chemical sensitivities until I was cured with homeopathy, so I understand pain, anxiety, and suffering. You may feel that your issues are more severe or different than anyone else’s, but I have seen it all in my practice and in my work in India. My opinion is that nothing has come close to the reproducible, safe and effective results that my clients, students and I have achieved with homeopathy.

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Joette is not a physician and the relationship between Joette and her clients is not of prescriber and patient, but as educator and client. It is fully the client's choice whether or not to take advantage of the information Joette presents. Homeopathy doesn't "treat" an illness; it addresses the entire person as a matter of wholeness that is an educational process, not a medical one. Joette believes that the advice and diagnosis of a physician is often in order.

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20 thoughts on “Just Married. Just Anxious!”

  1. Sally says:

    Would Passiflora be appropriate for an anxious man too? Or do you see this mostly benefit women?

    1. Joette Calabrese, HMC, CCH, RSHom(Na) says:

      This medicine is useful for all.

  2. Michele says:

    Sally thank you so much for asking this, I was just about to ask the very same thing?thank you Joette for sharing this information…

  3. Mary says:

    Cute story! I must remember Passiflora…thanks Joette!

  4. Nancy Perry says:

    I actually made passiflora tincture years ago and it’s still good in my cupboard…..but I’ve not used it because…..well, it was in the days that I tinctured everything that grew, put it away and never gave it another thought…..will be taking it out now AND purchasing the 6C. Thanks Joette….anything to avoid making the cat up in the sofa bed! LOL

  5. Laura says:

    What would we look for to differentiate between selecting Ignatia or Passiflora for an anxious person? Is it gender? (I know Ignatia leans toward females.) Disposition? (Ignatia seems to favor those who have a consistently hyper-acute nervous/emotional system…is Passiflora better for those who are generally more balanced but have occasional anxious events?) Type of anxiety we’re addressing? (Ignatia – overall hypersensitivity; Passiflora, “must perform to expectation” anxiety?) Thanks!

    1. Pamela says:

      Hi, Joette! I’m curious about what Laura asked – when to use Passiflora vs Ignatia? Also, you also mentioned on the blog elsewhere to use Gelsiumium for anticipatory anxiety which sounds similar to what you described in this example of visiting in-laws. Are all three of these meds an example of there being more than one way to treat the same condition? Thanks for all of your feedback in the comments – so helpful and appreciated!

      1. Joette Calabrese, HMC, CCH, RSHom(Na) says:

        Yes, having each of these available will give you a good cache from which to source your decisions.

  6. Mick says:

    Joette, would the difference between using Passiflora versus Ignatia versus Gelsemium be that Ignatia is used more for chronic anxiety, whereas Gelsemium can be used for chronic or acute anticipatory anxiety, whereas Passiflora might be used for acute anxiety that isn’t necessarily anticipatory (that is, acute anxiety that arises from a circumstance in which one finds oneself at that time)?

    1. Joette Calabrese, HMC, CCH, RSHom(Na) says:

      That’s a pretty good assessment, Mick. Having said this, don’t follow this too rigidly because it might hem you in more than is necessary.

      1. Mick says:

        Thank you so much, Joette!

  7. Mick says:

    Thanks so much, Joette!

  8. Rachel says:

    Dear Mrs. Calabrese,

    Would you say Passiflora shines when someone has a fear of judgement and not measuring up?

    Thank you!

    1. Joette Calabrese, HMC, CCH, RSHom(Na) says:

      It may indeed act for those conditions but if not there are others to consider as well. Using your browser check out “anxiety Joette Calabrese”.

  9. Rachel says:

    Thank you very kindly Mrs. Calabrese

  10. Judy says:

    Would you recommend starting with 6c or the MT? I’m wondering about my husband since he insists of using mint toothpaste and if he takes it before bed, maybe it wouldn’t matter as much with the MT?

    1. Joette Calabrese, HMC, CCH, RSHom(Na) says:

      Mother tincture is hardier against the potential of antidoting and for many it works just as well.

      1. Judy says:

        Thank you. Joette. Good to know and have on hand. I’ll add it to my order.

  11. Rachel says:

    Mrs. Calabrese,

    I know it is advisable to choose either Ignatia, Gelsemium or potentized Passiflora to cover anxiety, but might we use the mother tincture form with either Ignatia or Gelsemium without hesitation?

    Thank you!

    1. Joette Calabrese, HMC, CCH says:


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