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The Day I Lied to My Emergency Room Doctors … Part II

Joette Calabrese, HMC, CCH

April 24th, 2016  |  18 Comments

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By Guest Author Paola Brown

In part one of this article, I wrote about a difficult miscarriage I experienced where I hemorrhaged and needed emergency care. I shared how homeopathy was a huge help during this difficult ordeal, and I admitted to you that at some point during the commotion, I lied — er, fibbed — to my doctors. I promised a confession, and the day of truth has arrived.

Here we go. 

A few hours after my hemorrhaging was under control, I was still in the emergency room being monitored (you can review the homeopathic remedies I used for my hemorrhaging here.)

At the time, I felt great relief knowing I was doing so well, but realize now how deluded I was in thinking the worst was behind me. 

The first little hiccup happened when one of the ER nurses came in with a new bag of what looked like IV fluid. “What’s in that?” I asked. I had since learned that medical professionals don’t always ask permission before administering painkillers, and had already sent back three bags of drugs from different nurses charged with my care.

“It’s your antibiotics.”

“Whoa, whoa, whoa!” I panicked, then blurted:

“I, I, I … I can’t take antibiotics.”

“Why?” she asked.


“To which one?”

“All. Um, all of them.” 

Cue the ER doctor: “Excuse me, you’re allergic to all antibiotics?” 

“Yes,” I said without pause. Meanwhile, I noticed my husband grinning in the background because he knew exactly what I was up to; we both know I’m not technically allergic to antibiotics as defined by conventional medical standards.

But for you to appreciate why I would take such measures to avoid them, you need to understand my history.

Before Joette and homeopathy burst into my life, I had previously taken antibiotics—many, many, antibiotics. The last time I took a round was years ago for a UTI. That last round further destroyed my already depleted gut bacteria. 

The Mayo Clinic later explained that this final round of antibiotics had caused a histamine reaction, resulting in relentless itching all over my body—from my head down to my toes. This condition, they explained, was unlike a “typical” allergic reaction, where once the drug wears off, so, too, does the allergic reaction. 

Instead, my condition was termed a “permanent, incurable auto-immune disease”—one made present by the use of, you guessed it, antibiotics.

It was horrid, and I suffered through some very dark times. I would have fits of itching several times a day where it felt like someone had placed countless ants all over my body and then lit them on fire.

During these bouts of itching, the only thing I could do was grit my teeth, not move a muscle, and focus on my breathing until it passed. It felt like literal torture. Any slight movement caused my symptoms to return, so I laid perfectly still in bed for 3 whole months. 

It wasn’t until I found Joette and the gentle beauty of homeopathy that I finally found relief. Today, I’m completely cured of this condition.

Considering what I went through, do you think I'd want to poke that sleeping giant and take antibiotics ever again?

“Well,” the ER doctor said, “you really don’t need the antibiotics. It’s just a precautionary measure. So we’ll just monitor you carefully instead.”

His response begs the questions: SHOULDN’T DOCTORS TREAT ALL PATIENTS WITH THIS MANNER OF INDIVIDUALIZED CARE? Why must we fall victim to routine? Why did I have to fib to receive the type of quality attention every patient deserves?

By fibbing to this ER staff, my standard of care improved dramatically. Suddenly, they:

1)   stopped doing what was routine,

2)   started observing my condition carefully, and

3)   used those symptoms to determine their next course of action. 

I could literally feel these doctors truly and carefully observing my condition in a way they hadn't been doing before. However, the fibbing wasn’t over.

Because my wonderful and capable OBGYN had not yet arrived, I was left in the care of the hospital’s staff OBGYN, who also happened to be caring for over 100 women in the labor and delivery department at the same time. 

By the time she walked in, it was the wee hours of the morning. She looked exhausted (and dare I say, a bit grumpy).

She asked if she could do a vaginal exam, and I consented. She proceeded to perform a very aggressive and painful pelvic exam. Let me be frank: I’m a woman. If you're a woman, too, you're likely acquainted with the predictable discomfort standard to receiving a pelvic exam. I think we can all agree it's no walk in the park.

But this exam was different. The doctor’s aggressive manner made the exam incredibly painful, to the point I screamed and pleaded — several times — for her to stop.

Despite my protestations, she did not stop. 

When she finally decided the exam was over, I was left bewildered, stunned, and trembling. Even the nurse looked shocked.

I asked her, “What just happened?” Surely there must have been a pressing reason for her to ignore my demands. When she couldn't provide a reason, she became defensive. That is when her emotional wall went up and our doctor-patient communication broke down.

In a casual, matter-of-fact tone, she told the nurse, “Well, she needs antibiotics immediately. We’ll get some in her IV,” to which the nurse replied, “She’s allergic.”

The OBGYN insisted I still needed them. “We can give you antihistamines to counter the reaction.”

And for the second time that day, my education in homeopathy took precedence. 

If you do any sort of work with homeopathy, you understand what Joette calls “the art of observation.” By carefully observing symptoms, one can select an appropriate homeopathic remedy. 

Over the last few years, homeopathy has helped me hone my abilities, and I know how to identify important symptoms, even the presence of an infection.

I squared my shoulders and addressed the doctor directly:

“OK, wait. Stop. Do I have an infection? Or is this prophylactic?”

“Oh, you most definitely have an infection,” she countered.

“Tell me, what signs do you see?”

I don’t think the doctor was expecting this, but she obliged. “Well, the amount of pain you experienced from the exam is indicative of this.”

Honestly, I think she was trying to absolve herself of the aggressive exam she had just performed on me in an effort to make sense of the invasive nature with which she had just treated my body.

I pushed, “OK, but I also just had a miscarriage. My cervix is going to be tender, right? Are there other symptoms?”

“Well… (followed by a long pause)”

I asked, “Is there an odor?”

“Yes, there is definitely an odor that to me, indicates an infection,” she replied.

I wasn’t just going to take her word for it because I most definitely could not smell an odor. “Can you describe the odor?”

“Well, it’s hard to describe,” she answered, before following up with, “I just know this kind of smell.”

“Does it smell fishy? Like putrid? I only smell blood.”

These are the kinds of symptoms I've specifically looked for when using homeopathy to care for infections in both my family and myself.

“No, it doesn’t smell fishy. Listen, I just have a gut instinct about this. You need antibiotics,” she said. Little did she know, I wasn’t done with her just yet.

“OK, my white blood cell count was normal.”

She objected, “Well, it’s going to be skewed because you had 2 units of blood.”

“But it was normal when I first arrived a couple of hours ago,” I rebutted.

She then resorted to the age-old scare tactic, which is how I knew she was beginning to feel desperate:

“The mortality rate for this type of an infection is very bad!”

I'll be honest…that did scare me. I didn’t want to die, and she made it sound like death was knocking at my front door. However, I could not deny there was simply no evidence of an infection, other than her “gut instinct.”

I refused the antibiotics and stated I’d wait for a second opinion.

She didn't say another word to me. Instead, she turned to the nurse and said, “Fine. She is no longer under my care, and don’t call me down again. Let her own doc deal with her when she gets in.”

Thankfully, my incredible OBGYN arrived less than 30 minutes later, only to find me in tears. Her assessment of the situation was very different.

After a gentle pelvic exam, she explained that it was normal to have pain after an aggressive exam, as I just had a miscarriage and my “cervix would be very tender.”  “That’s why,” she said, “I need to examine you carefully.”

She did not detect an odor. “I only smell blood.” She further added, “Your white blood cell count was normal before the transfusion. You don’t need antibiotics.”

I thanked God, who had helped me find such a rare, evidence-based scientist to be my doctor. No knee-jerk reactions or routine ‘just in case’ procedures that didn’t match my individual situation; just a careful observation of my particular symptoms.

It was incredibly comforting to have a doctor back me up, but even if she had not been there, I still would not have taken the antibiotics!

Once I was back home, I needed to build my own blood supply back up, as well as grieve my loss.  

Yet again, homeopathy got me through it (see below for some protocols).

I’m so grateful for both homeopathy and Joette’s knowledge. Today, though my health isn’t perfect, I do live a robust, vibrant life chasing down children and chickens, milking cows, and keeping my garden pest-free, all thanks to homeopathy.


What I used and had on hand 

  • China 3, twice daily for blood loss.
  • Ferr phos 3x or 6x, twice daily to help build blood.

I also had the following medicines on hand in case I developed a uterine infection:

  • Hypericum perforatum 200 mixed with Arsenicum album 200, to be used twice daily. Thankfully, I never needed this one.

By the way, I learned these Banerji protocols from Joette’s course “Feminopathy: How You Can Correct Female Ailments Using Safe, Inexpensive and Effective Homeopathy.

Interested in learning more practical, proven protocols for women’s health? Well, you are in luck! My popular course, Feminopathy: How you Can Correct Female Ailments Using Save, Inexpensive and Effective Homeopathy, is ON SALE through Mother’s Day! Order now and get additional freebies: http://feminopathy.joettecalabrese.com/mothers-day/



I am a homeopath with a worldwide practice working with families and individuals via Zoom. I'm also a teacher and most importantly, a mom who raised my now-adult children depending on homeopathy over the last 31 years. I lived decades of my life with food intolerances, allergies, and chemical sensitivities until I was cured with homeopathy, so I understand pain, anxiety, and suffering. You may feel that your issues are more severe or different than anyone else’s, but I have seen it all in my practice and in my work in India. My opinion is that nothing has come close to the reproducible, safe and effective results that my clients, students and I have achieved with homeopathy.

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18 thoughts on “The Day I Lied to My Emergency Room Doctors … Part II”

  1. Mary says:

    I’m sure you are not the first woman to be treated that way by that staff obgyn. She should be charged with rape- no means no and stop means stop. Awesome job standing up for yourself afterward and resisting her scare tactics. I swear they must get special training in that area.

  2. Jan says:

    I agree, awesome job sticking up for yourself in a difficult situation.

  3. Kathy says:

    Thank you for sharing your story. I am 44 years old and have 5 living children. We have lost 3 d/t miscarriage. Reading your story makes me a little bit weepy again for my loss and yours. May God bless you and your angel in heaven.

  4. Barbara Fralish says:

    very impressive! thank you for sharing!

  5. I would love to hear the protocol that you used to reverse the skin itching condition that you mentioned!!

  6. am says:

    This story, although it has a happy ending, makes me so thankful I never sought medical attention after my m/c!!! Ugh….

  7. Mark says:

    Thanks for that inspiring story! I just read it to my daughter to empower her if she ever ends up in a similar situation!

  8. Virginia says:

    Wow, what an ordeal. If there was an infection, I believe you would have had a fever. I would have filed a complaint with the hospital. There may be other “victims” of her abuse. She could have caused the hemorage to start up again by being do rough.

  9. Theresa Lesaca says:

    Is it necessary to separate the China from Ferr Phos when taking to rebuild the blood, or is it okay to combine the two?

    1. Joette Calabrese, HMC, CCH, RSHom(Na) says:

      I mix unrelated remedies all the time and they still act.

      1. Theresa Lesaca says:

        Good to know. Thanks Joette! 🙂

  10. Jenny says:

    Hi! Is there some way we can alleviate the itchiness that you experienced from the use of antibiotics? I think my MIL is having the same problem for years and I would like to know how to help her. I thought about Ars Alb but I know it will not be enough. Which course would you recommend for me to take to help her? Thank you.

    1. Joette Calabrese, HMC, CCH, RSHom(Na) says:

      Ars alb is an excellent place to start, but for further direction, Skin, the Ugly Truth would be your best choice. Its discounted by 10% today.

  11. Mayda says:

    Is it ok to use China 6c instead of 3? My friend has had a miscarriage and store has 6c.

    1. Joette Calabrese, HMC, CCH, RSHom(Na) says:

      You may use any potency in a pinch but if you hope to experience results that I and others are accustomed to observing, stay true to the protocol.

  12. Emily says:

    How long should one take China and Ferr Phos after a miscarriage?

    1. Joette Calabrese, HMC, CCH, RSHom(Na) says:

      We use homeopathic medicines for as long as they’re needed. That is, once energy and overall wellness are achieved.

  13. Sheri Youngquist says:

    I have learned that itchiness on my skin often means that my liver is struggling. If I treat my liver with various food and supplements, the itching subsides. But getting my liver healthy with homeopathics seems like the smartest thing to do. I’ve been waking again lately at 3:00am, so I was interested in the maniac mom article.

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